The fourth of the BPD blankets to be taken out of the Cluster B airing cupboard. The Blanket Of Defeat is one of the heaviest.
It’s thinking about the same thing for a long time. Whether you want to or not.
Not All People With NPD Are Abusive
Not all of any kind of people are any one thing. Why should people with NPD be any different?
This is not a definitive list… we could be here all day with that, but these are some of the big things to look out for, both for the person with NPD, and the person going through it.
What exactly is it that makes a relationship toxic?
Do you have bad boundaries? Do you know when to say no? Boundaries effect how we treat other, and how we let others treat us, and they’re different for BPD and NPD. It’s a big ball of mess.
People come in and out of our lives all the time, but that doesn’t mean we want them to, and it doesn’t mean they’re abandoning us either.
Guilt. We should have it all the time, but we don’t. Then it all comes at once.
Just because something feels like something, doesn’t mean it is. Is it really being abusive to us, to make us take responsibility?
It’s all well and good helping yourself, but what if you really need help?